I decided to write this post because of an incident I had recently while out at a fast-food restaurant. Let me begin by telling you my experience.
It was dinner time about a week ago when my fiance and I decided to go for a bite to eat at a local fast-food restaurant. Toki was put in her vest and we proceeded inside where I found a seat that was out-of-the-way and in the corner where I was most comfortable. Staff members acknowledged Toki as I sat down and got her into a comfortable position under the table. As my fiance left me to order our food I noticed a young woman standing in front of the washroom, waiting for someone. She looked at me and said, “I am surprised they let your dog in here.” which I then explained that Toki is my service dog. After I explained myself to the woman, she than started calling out loudly to her son to come see my “puppy”. She then started talking to my dog as if I was not even there. Thankfully, as her son came over; so did my fiance with my food. It stopped the woman from distracting my dog and calling out to her son. She then left towards the table she was dining at. I was left in shock and having to explain to my fiance what the woman did. He was quite upset about it too and we both wished children were taught more about Service Dogs and that they are working.
So here I am now writing the post I wanted to write to let parents know that teaching their kids proper etiquette is the best thing they can do. I always feel bad having to tell another person’s child that my dog is working and they can not pet her. It makes me feel better when I hear parents explain to their kids that my dog is working and to leave her alone. It really doesn’t bother me if a child sees my dog and acknowledges it. What bothers me is when a parent lets their child come up and just pet or distract my dog. It also makes me feel terrible when parents get upset when I say “no” to their kids with my dog.
Please parents teach your children and friends that Service Dogs are meant to work and perform a duty for their handler. Know that not all dogs are for kids to pet and play with. Just kindly let them know that the dog is working and to not distract them. I have even seen parents make a game of being quiet around my dog; which I really appreciate. Please make it fun and a learning experience for your children.
Teaching the younger generation about Service Dogs, makes a brighter future for the handlers who use Service Dogs.
Attending local conventions is something I have always enjoyed. Each year I attend comic and sports conventions when I can. The first convention with Toki this year was a Sports Card Expo and I was a little hesitant because I knew kids would be there and crowds too. I did have a few encounters that I found quite memorable while out at the Sports Expo with friends and my Fiance. Let me share my story with you:
It was the first weekend in May and my fiance and I lined up to attend the Expo with Toki dressed in her vest, ready to work. I was in front of a nice man in line who seemed to enjoy seeing Toki- I could hear him saying “Awww” so I knew her cute face was acknowledged. When we got close to the door the man held the door for me and said that he knew Toki was working and that he knew he could not pet her but she was a sweet little dog. It actually was a good interaction and I was happy to hear someone understand she was working. Many parent’s told their kids “No,no Hunny that puppy is working; we don’t pet them.” which was nice to hear as well. It made me comfortable knowing kids were learning good lessons and manners. Even the handsome police officer at the front entrance smiled and let me through the side door when leaving with Toki- always a bonus!
But, with the positive encounters came the not so nice ones or the ones that made me uncomfortable. I had an issue when entering with Toki because of the turnstiles they were using for participants entering. I knew the fit would be tight and awkward for me, so I asked the woman manning the entrance to please let me through the middle where chairs were placed to keep people from entering the large opening. She stopped her conversation with another volunteer and acknowledged me and then carelessly moved the chairs and proceeded to look at my Service Dog and exclaim, “What’s wrong, poor puppy can’t go through a turnstile?” The tone she used came off as very rude and condescending but I just ignored her and went about my day. Although, I really could not believe how she reacted when I politely asked her to please let me in the other way.
Then there was the man who approached me at a busy vendor table and asked if I had watched a documentary about fake service dogs. My face turned to a pale white and I stood with my mouth wide open in disbelief. I really could not understand why this would be something to approach me about. He did not even introduce himself or start conversation with me but the first thing he thought to say was to ask myself about fake Service Dogs. It kind of made me wonder why he would ask me and why in a public place among a crowd of people. He then continued telling me about the documentary which I really had no interest in and then loudly said, “Not that I am accusing you!” and then walked away. I stood dumbfounded and did not even know how to comprehend the meeting. My fiance was next to me and turned and asked if I was okay and why the man felt he needed to tell me that. I can not speak for what the man was thinking but my thoughts were racing and all I could think was, ” I hope no one thinks I’m a fraud.” and it was kind of an awful feeling. One thing I notice is that I dislike being confronted or approached in public places and asked questions about my dog. I really feel it is not anyone’s business but my own as to what Toki does for me.
The last thing was something I had happen for the first time and did not know how to react. A man at his vendor table was whistling at Toki and calling out to her loudly from across the aisle. I seriously wanted to walk over and say something but I am far too shy and just kept walking trying to keep Toki focused. I have only had my Service Dog for 2 months so I am sure there will be more of this happening. It’s really irritating that people do not know that Service Dogs are not just cuddly pets but that they are doing a job for their handler. When distracting my dog it not only distracts her but also sets my focus completely off and actually causes me to panic. I am lucky I had my fiance there with me to help as well when I was flustered with the boisterous man.
I know that a convention is a big step for Toki and I am very happy I was brave enough to go to the Sports Expo with her. It was really nice being able to enjoy myself and not worry about getting lost from my friends in the crowd. It was also nice knowing I had Toki there to keep me focused the whole time from bumping into things or people. It was quite the adventure and I am looking forward to more conventions with her this year!
Never distract a Service Dog as they are working and need to focus.