I just got back home from a good day out with Cory (my fiancée) and Toki. We decided to go take a walk around the mall and just browse the shops. I had a few interactions with people today that I would like to share, because I want to blog more about our adventures and public encounters.
When we finished shopping at a store we decided to take a seat on the chairs in the mall which were arranged nicely with little tables. I got Toki to lay down in front on my legs and proceeded to have a conversation with Cory. While speaking with him I did notice a few stares but the worst was when I looked over and saw a whole family turn around and them come over and point at me exclaiming, “Oh look it is a Service Dog!” I seriously watched a group of people come over and point at Toki and I like we were a zoo attraction or something. It really upsets me when people don’t stop and think what a person feels like being pointed out in public. I am someone with a disability who needs my dog and when you point and say things it brings a lot of attention to myself that I do not want. I know people want to point Toki out because she is cute and a dog isn’t seen everyday in public places, but they have to remember that there is a handler attached to that dog and they need them for a disability. I see it like pointing out someone who has a wheelchair or a hearing aid. You would never say something because you know it is rude to do so. The same etiquette applies with a Service Dog and handler.
Later on, we decided to take a trip into Chapters to look at some books because I am always looking for something new to read and I collect art books. Toki was very well-behaved and laid down while we were browsing, she even stayed in her spot when I went down the aisle for a book. I was coming around the corner with Toki when I saw a young girl and her father coming towards me and I knew they had followed me from the aisle next to me because I saw them earlier. The father stopped me and asked, “Can we see your dog?” I then explained that she is working and a Service Dog. He then said to his daughter, “See that is why we ask first.” and left with her. I heard him saying as they walked by that I must be training the dog for work. I don’t know why people assume I am training Toki, I have heard it more than once. It really upsets me because I don’t know why people think that way. Maybe because I am young and don’t look disabled but we have to remember that not all illness’ are visible. I need Toki to help me and she is trained for myself. I am not training her for an organization or for the needs of someone else. I kind of wish the father knew more about service dogs so he could explain why Toki is working or why she can not pet her. I always feel bad saying “No” to people who ask so nicely, but Toki has to stay focused on me in public.
After a long time in Chapters we then headed to Starbucks and had frappuccinos on the patio while Toki laid down under my seat. She saw some crumbs from a sandwich sitting next to her and did very well leaving it alone. Although a few people made my day feel uncomfortable, I still had a great day out enjoying myself with Toki and Cory. Toki did very well and is now lounging on her pillow-bed while I make dinner.
I really hope to share some more adventures with you all soon!
Please do not point and bring attention to a Service Dog as it brings unwanted attention to the handler.
Toki is a working dog who helps me with my everyday life and when I am on vacation she is with me. Toki does not work every second of her life and she does take some down time when off duty at home or when I am with family.
I am always asked if Toki is happy with working and if she gets tired of working all the time. I am pretty sure it is hard work and she does get tired but she does not work all day-everyday. When she is home she is just like any other dog and enjoys treats and fun in the backyard. Her favourite past-time is to chase her 4 cat-siblings around the house. She knows when the leash and vest are on that it is time to work and help me out with my day.
This past weekend was my first time away at a cottage with Toki. We were invited by friends and I was super nervous at first about having Toki with me. She has never been on any sort of vacation with myself and I was not sure what to expect. I decided that Toki would be off duty and enjoy herself while at the cottage with friends and another dog. Off-Duty meaning she was able to be off leash and play but she was still there if I needed her.
She had never been on a boat before and we had to take one over to the island the cottage was on. She seemed to enjoy the boat ride and even provided me with some comfort because I was really nervous. When we got there we were greeted by a big dog named Bruce who Toki seemed to really get a long with. I was afraid that a big dog would just see her as a toy to chew on but he was very well behaved with her. I think it was love at first sight because those two were so good all weekend together.
The next day we all strapped some life jackets on and went canoeing and Toki joined in on the adventure. She was a little hesitant at first but eventually made her way into the canoe and settled down. We canoed for about half an hour before making it back to shore where we decided to swim on the other side of the island. This was where Toki had her first swim with me and she did not like it at all; or so we thought. Later on in the vacation Toki actually came into the water on her own and swam to me. It was super cute to see her enjoying herself and it made me happy knowing I had her there with me. She also liked running around the island with Bruce and playing with him. They would chase each other from one end of the island to the other. Toki was a dirty mess from all the water and dirt so once we were back home it was definitely bath time.
I was very happy to be able to bring my Service Dog with me and have her go on a mini vacation herself. Now that we are home it is back to work for her with helping me out in public. Who knows, maybe another vacation will be in-store for us.
Some Service Dogs do not have to work 24/7, it depends on their handler and their needs.
I decided to write this post because of an incident I had recently while out at a fast-food restaurant. Let me begin by telling you my experience.
It was dinner time about a week ago when my fiance and I decided to go for a bite to eat at a local fast-food restaurant. Toki was put in her vest and we proceeded inside where I found a seat that was out-of-the-way and in the corner where I was most comfortable. Staff members acknowledged Toki as I sat down and got her into a comfortable position under the table. As my fiance left me to order our food I noticed a young woman standing in front of the washroom, waiting for someone. She looked at me and said, “I am surprised they let your dog in here.” which I then explained that Toki is my service dog. After I explained myself to the woman, she than started calling out loudly to her son to come see my “puppy”. She then started talking to my dog as if I was not even there. Thankfully, as her son came over; so did my fiance with my food. It stopped the woman from distracting my dog and calling out to her son. She then left towards the table she was dining at. I was left in shock and having to explain to my fiance what the woman did. He was quite upset about it too and we both wished children were taught more about Service Dogs and that they are working.
So here I am now writing the post I wanted to write to let parents know that teaching their kids proper etiquette is the best thing they can do. I always feel bad having to tell another person’s child that my dog is working and they can not pet her. It makes me feel better when I hear parents explain to their kids that my dog is working and to leave her alone. It really doesn’t bother me if a child sees my dog and acknowledges it. What bothers me is when a parent lets their child come up and just pet or distract my dog. It also makes me feel terrible when parents get upset when I say “no” to their kids with my dog.
Please parents teach your children and friends that Service Dogs are meant to work and perform a duty for their handler. Know that not all dogs are for kids to pet and play with. Just kindly let them know that the dog is working and to not distract them. I have even seen parents make a game of being quiet around my dog; which I really appreciate. Please make it fun and a learning experience for your children.
Teaching the younger generation about Service Dogs, makes a brighter future for the handlers who use Service Dogs.